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Its valentine's again! hmmm...where is the nearest flowershop?! But wait, are the flowers really wanted?

There is this neat book called "the five languages of love" by Chapman. Here, the author figured out that there are many ways to express your love...and it is important to first assess what language she can understand.

THE FIVE LANGUAGES

Words of AFFIRMATION. You are so pretty tonight. Did you lose weight? You are so, so good. tc to ofc tom. teker bebe. gud am. hi. :-). gn. sd. R u safely home now? I love you. I honestly love you!

QUALITY Time. watching a movie together is sadly not included. You want activities that you do together...where you can give her your undivided attention. Text twist. Lunch and dinner dates. Getting lost going to a new place! Badminton. Studying. Billiards. Telephone calls (both quick and telebabad). Shopping. Booze Stop.

GIFTS. If you never wished for a gift, you are not normal! hahaha Do it consistently. If you always think of your friend, you will find a uniquely beautiful gift just about anywhere, everyday -- going to the office, walking to school, driving back home. Though an ipod will surely excite her, the smaller things that you give in between the big gifts are collectively more important. Cakes. Chocolates. "Teachers have a lot of class" cards. A belt. Slippers. A wallet. Big mac meal with large fries and iced tea. A small bouquet of flowers. A BIGGER bouquet of flowers. Small pasalubongs from your out-of-town trips.

Physical TOUCH. Sorry if she is super sensitive!   :( Scratching her back. Holding her arm when crossing the street. Lightly brushing her hair with your hand. A hug. A peck on the cheek. Making light akbay.

Acts of SERVICE. Doing something that permits your labidabs to rest a little...or frees up her time to do other important things. Hatid sundo. Her party invites. Letting her sleep soundly in the car while you traverse a very lonely road. The term paper.  Volunteering to man her tiange booth? Something hard but done with joi.

WHAT TO SPEAK?

We can speak all five but only to a certain degree. What is natural for you is the easiest to do. BUT, what is natural for her is what you SHOULD do.

We adjust because we want to connect. That is love.

If after you connect she also realize that you are more comfortable speaking another language...and she adjusts(!)...then good for you! She is also making an effort for you. That is true love.

The operational word here is "connecting"!

SO, ARE YOU IN LOVE?

If you read up to this point, then maybe you are really in love. Your interest to make the relationship become better is very evident.

Now, I think I am a fat head. Does that mean I am madly in love? :)

Goodluck this week guys. Do something unique. Make the coming date a real activity where you both can connect and communicate in a language that you both understand. Then FAITHFULLY commit.

Tell me if this works for you. HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!

Jun
 

P.S.

Thank you Fanny for being a patient counselor!

February 13, 2007